I do not think there is a person now or ever who has not thought or said, “S/he broke my heart.” When that happens too often there is the tendency to say never again, and we close ourselves away from the possibility of a new relationship. We build walls around ourselves and we refuse to let them down. We are afraid to let go, to open our heart to new possibilities.
If we open our hearts we will be vulnerable, but we will be available for love to come and visit, perhaps to stay for a while or even move in.
When we close our hearts because we have come out of a bad relationship – any kind of relationship – marital or it could be a family or a friend we love dearly – our hearts are closed, PERIOD. That means that the other types of loving relationships we may have had or might yet have, they too are locked out and blocked from entering.
Our heart is our heart and there may be many rooms within which we store memories of loving relations, or in which we can create new. But, there is only one entrance to our heart, and we are the only ones with the key, who can turn the key and unlock the door and let love enter.
Unlocking the door allows all of the family of love through. Love doesn’t enter in pieces or parts; it’s an all or nothing kind of ONE big love, that then gets filtered into differing types of love.
The Scriptures are replete with warnings from YHWH not to “harden our hearts.” On another note, look at the cause of heart disease and heart attacks; hardening of the arteries. Symbolic or not, hardening of our hearts can make us sick. We block energy flow and other types of illnesses set in.
It is fine to grieve and I think it is imperative that coming out of any kind of relationship, we need to grieve, heal and spend some time alone! Jumping back into another relationship is our way of avoiding dealing with what just happened.
But, we cannot remain closed off to the endless possibilities and types of love, so the sooner we step back out, the better we will be for it!
We are Created by Love, Created out of Love and everything about us is Love. Harden not your hearts. Each of the three Scriptures below ends with the admonishment not to harden our hearts.
Psalm 95:7 For He is our God, And we are the people of His pasture and the sheep of His hand. Today, if you would hear His voice,
Hebrews 3:7 Therefore, as the Holy Spirit says: “Today if you hear His voice,
Hebrews 4:7 God again designated a certain day as “Today,” when a long time later He spoke through David, as was already stated: “Today, if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts.”
Rev. 4:11 says, “You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they were created and have their being.”